How to React When Someone Rejects You Because of Your Race?

Posted by | March 17th, 2017

Rejection always hurts and no one is thrilled at the idea of finding out a crush considers them less than an ideal match. It hurts all the more so when you discover than they don't like you because of your race. Not only must you deal with the sting of rejection, but you even feel a little violated because of the subtle racial profiling you've just experienced.

Having the Proper View

Logically, of course, you know that just because the person sees you as "Your Race", that certainly doesn't mean you're like every other man or woman of that color. Rejection based on race hurts mostly because we feel judged for something we have no control over. It doesn't seem fair at all. It may even seem like stereotyping or even a subtle form of racism.

On the other hand, it's easy to understand where the other person is coming from, even if it does hurt your pride. Why would you want to date somebody you're not attracted to, or that you don't like very much? How would you react if someone you didn't find attractive had a crush on you?

You probably wouldn't want to pity-date them. You wouldn't want to lead them on or give them any false hope that you were interested. So in view of that, we do understand why it's not right to "force somebody" to fall in love. Attraction and love is the choice of free, sentient beings. It's the privilege we have and it's the most important decision of one's life, so we don't take it lightly.

The answer is to just accept the person's viewpoint and move on. Yes, you could definitely give them a piece of your mind but it wouldn't accomplish anything. Sometimes people avoid dating a specific race because of bad memories associated with a past interracial relationship, or because of their parents or extended family not approving of interracial marriage.

The truth is, no explanation is ever going to make it better. It's the kind of thing you just have to recover from and move on, preferably finding someone who is deserving of your time.

Take Back Control of Your Search

This is precisely why many people of varying races or interracial blood choose to take their search online, using black women white men dating sites or app. This search allows them to browse matches that ARE interested, not the singles that are going to be turned off by race or ethnicity, or other shallow things.

Sometimes the rejection even happens online, especially at mainstream sites like Craigslist, Tinder and OKCupid. This is why it might be a good idea to try a new service where you have better success. You might even sign up with sites or apps that give you greater control over the search process—perhaps filtering out certain personality types, or people who aren't interested in interracial dating.

This approach makes black dating so much easier and you can start talking with confidence, self-esteem and comfort. You don't have to worry about awkward tension because of someone's racial preference—you know they like your body type and race/ethnicity. The positive environment works wonders for the both of you. It's a better and smarter way to date!

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